Monthly Archives: October 2015

Be Positive or Be Quiet


Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words.  Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior.  Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits.  Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values.  Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.

– Mahatma Gandhi

Dear Jack ~ Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right.  We are what we think about.  It’s ever-so-easy to catch ourselves in mental conversations throughout the day.  The key, is they need to be constructive, deliberate, and positive tones.  Our attitude towards life determines life’s attitude towards us.

Our thoughts lead to actions and our actions lead to progress.  Eternal, battle hardened progress.  They say the average person has about 30,000 internal conversations per day.  Let’s make it positive and uplifting dialogue.  Below are some simple strategies for staying the course:

  1. Wait to worry – count to 10.
  2. Keep an attitude of gratitude – write it down.
  3. Your health is your wealth – no replacement for health and wellness.
  4. Enjoy the serious benefits of a belly laugh – laugh, out loud.
  5. Joy boomerangs – what comes around goes around.
  6. Losing the fight?  Write. – see this blog.
  7. Keep the faith, baby – never, ever give in.
  8. Lean to say “no” graciously – no, means yes.
  9. Understand the power of discipline – discipline = destiny.

We must rid ourselves of the I can’t do it, it’s too hard, and it’s not the right time mentality.  Instead, let’s replace it with I can do all things, this too shall pass and a now or never spirit.  This is no doubt easier said than done.  But practice does make perfect and with effort and vigor we can conquer any and all negative self talk.  Let’s shift from a victim to victor mindset and watch doors open that were previously slam shut, our horizon will open up and you’ll go from the back to the front with one touch of favor.

Become the most positive and enthusiastic person you know.  And never forget that a negative mind will never give you a positive life.

7 Things Every Child Needs to Hear


You speak.  I listen.  We dance.  Your life ignites.

– Steve Hardison

Dear Jack ~ What separates world class from the average is the quality of questions we ask.  But sometimes, what’s needed is a statement.  A powerful, opportunistic and epic statement.  What follows are small, yet mighty, ideas that can be spoken over any child, anytime, anywhere.

It is my hope you hear these cross my tongue on a routine and frequent basis.  I was raised by a single mother and grew up a maverick; she instilled many of these phrases in me but truthfully, most of these fell on deaf ears.  I wasn’t ready, willing, or able.  It is also my aspiration that, as you age, you begin to understand the true meaning of these phrases for they are not lip service.  Within each of these is the power to heal, enhance and encourage.

  • I love you.
  • I’m proud of you.
  • I’m sorry.
  • I forgive you.
  • I’m listening.
  • This is your responsibility.
  • You’ve got what it takes.

CAUTION:  These phrases are potent.  Do not use them recklessly.  Use them wisely and watch doors open, relationships blossom and your world shift.  Apply them to your life and not only will you inspire others but, in doing so, your world will open up.  You’ll savor flavors never experienced, notice joy in the smallest of places, and begin to uncover life’s true meaning.  Remember, a blessing isn’t a blessing until it’s spoken so speak freely, from your heart, and your life will ignite and change forever.

Back to the Future


It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves that will make them succesful human beings.

– Ann Landers

Dear Jack ~ Great Scott, where has the time gone.  Lest we not forget, the only level playing field and formidable currency in life is time.  Seize it and your world will literally change forever.  Dismiss it, and you are destined for an existence of mediocrity, normalcy, and boredom.

If there is one idea I can pass onto you, it’s not to take your days, hours, and minutes for granted.  The sands in the hourglass will continue to fall, whether we like it or not, but it is up to you to use them effectively, efficiently, and appropriately.  Own your day, or the day will end up owning you.

There will come a day, I cannot tell you when it will be, but you will look back on these days.  You will view them through a unique lens, one which only you posess, and you will judge how you spent your moments.  Was it worth it?

Living like you are dying is common nomenclature in today’s fast paced world but it can be an effective strategy when deciding how to spend your day.  Remember the number of your days, He will fulfill.  Fuel your flux capacitor and approach your days with vigor and zeal and the rest, as they say, is history.

20 Years From Now


Life moves pretty fast.  If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.

Ferris Bueller

Dear Jack ~ Your sister kept us up all night.  What a travesty.  How on earth could she do such a thing?  She’s 8 months old…

In 20 years I will wish for anything to hear her (and your) footsteps inching down those stairs.  I will crave that you still wanted to sleep in our bed.  I’ll trade a major organ for the times you wanted to fingerpaint and spend time talking about nothing.  Where will the time have gone?  Life has a funny way of putting things in perspective.  Instant gratification abounds and the world tells us to live for today; I propose you live for the moment.

Savor the now.  Work can wait.  Errands can wait.  TV can wait.  Let me tell you what can’t; memories.  The ones in the making.  The ones yet to be cemented.  And the ones you dream.

It’s not the time we spend together, but the moments we ignite to create memories.




Fix Your Hair


Two roads diverged in a wood and I – I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference.

– Robert Frost

Dear Jack ~ it was a chilly afternoon that September afternoon in 1875, copper dust was in the air and a gathering of the minds was taking place. Donned in full construction clad, with iron chaff underneath their fingernails, the construction of Libertas, the Roman goddess, was complete. Constructed in France, a decade later on June 17, 1885, over 200,000 people lined the docks of lower Manhattan to watch the French steamer Iserè carry the Statue of Liberty to her to final resting place in New York harbor.

High atop her brazen figure stands her crown, for which she is named.  At 204 metric tons her skin is an inch thick and her peak approaches 305 feet.  Little did they know, the men who forged her faced a dilemma for the ages…  at the time, airplanes had yet to be a figment of anyone’s imagination so it would have been just as easy to let the details atop her head remain undefined of detail.  No one would ever see above her crown yet these men chartered a course.  They decided at that quorum that no detail would be spared and the intricacies of each and every strand of hair would be complete just as the rest of her was; immense and finite detail.

What’s my point?  You know my point.

Short cuts are easy.  Compromise is the norm.  Conceding takes zero effort.  You need to dig deep. Remember these men who spent a decade of their life building one of our nation’s greatest symbols.  Could they have settled?  Absolutely.  Would anyone have known?  Perhaps not immediately, but little did these forbearers know, that a century later the world would stare into her eyes and hundreds of thousands of visitors a year would look from atop, not below, via aircraft and helicopter.

Jack, you are a maverick in the making.  Your job is to blaze trails and create opportunity where none exists; in that order.  You come from a long line of renegades who have never waited for the sky to open up and the sea to part.  Because of that, your future looks to be a bright one.  One day the ball will be passed off to you.  Take it.  Run with it.  And never look back.